放手让那些想要离开的人离开

放手让那些想要离开的人离开

5 Reasons To Let Go Of People Who Choose To Leave

Your Life

Lets break things down a little and look at the reasons first why we need to let go of people .

让我们来慢慢分解这些事情，首先来看看为什么我们要让这些人离开。

1.Because some people will do what they want whenever they want. 因为有些人不管是什么时候想要得到他们想要的，他们都会去争取

They won’t cast you a second thought. Call them what ever names you want but I doubt they will care. Yes, some people will never change. They may have promised to change or may have had no interest in changing. After all they think they are perfect, so why suffer with someone who will never see you as someone of any significance?

他们不会在意你的想法。你可以随意的叫他们什么，但是我怀疑他们是否会在意。是的，有些人就是不会改变的。他们也许答应要改变，或者也许根本就没有意向去改变。因为他们就认为他们自己就是完美的，所以为什么要为那些自诩很重要但再无可能会相见的人难受呢？ Their ego and degree of self importance blinded them to your pain and suffering. Have you waited up for them to come home, did they ignore you or belittle you, did they forget your birthday, to take you out? Was your relationship very one sided and all about them and they decided to leave you for someone else

without casting a thought your way? If so, let go, breathe a sigh of relief, you had a lucky escape. Count your blessings. It is no loss!

他们的自尊心，自我重视程度蒙蔽了他们的眼睛，他们看不见你的痛苦、你的难受。你是否曾等着他们回家，他们是否曾忽视你或是轻视你，他们是否曾忘记了你的生日，忘记了要带你出去？你们的感情是否就是你单方面的事情，你所有的心思都是关于他们的，他们一点也没为你考虑，因为某人就想离开你？如果是这样，那就选择放手吧，你可以松口气了，你还有机会走出来。凡是要往好处想，这也不算什么损失。

2.Because maybe you have driven them away.

也许是因为你把他们赶出去的

Have you changed? Has something happened? Did you miss the signals or alarm bells going off? Were they trying to tell you something? Did they act differently? Only you can answer this, or if you find it too difficult, confide in someone whose opinion you respect, but may not always like! You deserve an honest answer before you can make peace and get some closure.

你有些什么改变吗？发生过些什么吗？你是否想念那突然想起的铃声？这些问题只有你才知道答案，要是你觉得很难回答，那就相信某个会尊重你意见的人说的，但是也许你并不总是那么喜欢。在你恢复平静、结束这段感情之前你有权知道事实。

3.Because sometimes you just have to recognize that it was only you trying to make things work.

因为有时候你不得不承认只有你才在努力

Maybe they found what they were looking for elsewhere and you no longer met their expectations. You were surplus to their requirements, they lost interest. I know this can be devastating and hard to face, but is that possibly what

happened? Sometimes we try so hard to meet all the expectations of another, but it is unsustainable and exhausting.

也许他们发现他们正在寻找某个地方，你也不再能满足他的期望。相对于他们的需求来说你就是多余的，他们已经失去了兴趣。我知道这个会有点让人崩溃，也有点难以面对，但如果

是那样，可能会发生些什么呢？有时候我们努力着去满足别人的期望，但不是一直都能让别人满意，自己还弄得筋疲力尽。

4.Because sometimes letting go of someone is kinder than holding someone back.

有时候放手比缠着不放要好

Yes, sometimes letting someone go is the kindest thing to do. Are you now free to do the things you always wanted to do, are you no longer held back from doing something you have been putting off or felt unable to do before this? 有时候放手是最好的选择。你现在是否能够自由自在的做你想做的事情了？以前被你推迟了很久的事情或者之前感觉不能做的事情现在是不是可以做了？

Alternatively maybe that is why someone left because they felt held back and stagnant in an aspect of their life that was making them very unhappy, so unhappy they had to do something.

或许这就是别人离开的原因，因为他们感觉他们的生活在某方面有些滞后，有些拖延，那样会让他们变得很不开心，所以不开心的他们不得不做点什么事。

5.Because you have become too dependent.

也许是因为你太粘人了

Did you lose yourself along the way and become too dependent on this person and you craved being with them and having them around you and they recognized this and feel trapped, stifled and wanted out! Were you less

independent since you have been together, did you have greater expectations from the other person?

这一路上你失去自我了吗？跟这些人一起都变得太不独立了，你渴望和他们在一起，有他们在你身边。但是他们已经认识到这点了，他们觉得很累，想要摆脱这种生活。自从你们在一起之后你就变得不那么独立了，你是否对别人也期望太多了？