包容和理解1
包容和理解
包容,是我们最缺乏的,每天都会因为不同的人而苦恼、忧愁。而又有多少是可以心平气和地去面对这些呢?
来看看我们都为什么烦恼:“A又占了我一个小便宜„„”、“B又说了一句我不爱听的话”、“C又做了一件跟我没关系但看着却不顺眼的事儿”„„等等等等。
瞧瞧,我们每天都在干什么?!为什么我们不能为别人后退一步?为什么我们学不会包容?道理谁都懂,为什么我们不去做?
快乐,除了从任何地方得到,更多的却是自己为他人的付出,我们应该学会“或许他的这件事我看着不顺眼,但在不损害别人的利益下,他肯定是有原因的。”
每当遇到一些事情的时候,首先不要说对方“你这样、那样的是不对的”,我个人认为应该是以学习地心态,去问对方“为什么?”真正地理解了,与对方有“同理心”了,才不会增添很多烦恼。 今天学会包容任何人,我们才会有更快乐的明天。
Tolerance and Comprehension
Tolerance is something we are lack of so much, we are confused and annoyed about others every day, but why we could not face them peacefully?
Let’s check out what make us so upset, someone gained extra
advantage by unfair means from me, someone said something bad about me, someone did something which made me very uncomfortable……
Look at what we are doing every day, why we could not just step backward for others? Why we could not learn to be tolerant? We all can understand these kinds of principles, but we just don’t try.
Despite other resources, we could gain more happiness from giving to others, we should learn to know and remind ourselves, “maybe I can’t understand why he or she did that, but without hurting others, he or she should have their own reasons.”
When we face some conflicts, the thing we need to express is not “you are so wrong”, but asking them the exact reason with the attitude of learning. When we have the sincere and true comprehension, we could avoid many troubles.
When we learn to be tolerant, we will surely have a more happy future!